Handling Emotions During Bankruptcy
Filing for bankruptcy is without question one of the most stressful periods of time in a person’s life. Unfortunately, society attaches a number of negative stigmas to personal bankruptcy leaving many debtors feeling insecure and devalued. Most people going through bankruptcy would rather keep it secret from their friends and family, and many debtors even experience severe emotional reactions to the stresses of bankruptcy.
But bankruptcy can be a good thing too. Not only for your wallet, but your emotions and health as well. All of the stress that comes with piles of debt and harassing creditors can cause serious health concerns for many people. Filing bankruptcy provides much needed financial and emotional relief. Most people feel a heavy burden lifted from their shoulders after filing their bankruptcy paperwork. And the day you receive your discharge paperwork, it can feel like a second chance at creating a debt free and financially healthy life.
Without question there are a lot of different emotions one goes through during a bankruptcy, but it’s important to keep your emotions separate from the bankruptcy process. Too many times people make emotional decisions regarding filing bankruptcy. Its all too common for homeowners to come to attorneys seeking bankruptcy information in an effort to save their home, the same house they have two mortgages on, owe more than the home is worth, and have all around negative equity in. Why do they even want to keep this house? It’s usually because of an emotional attachment to the home they can’t seem to shake. Often times they even know reaffirming their mortgage is a bad idea. I only share this story to illustrate how important it is to separate your emotions from the business of bankruptcy.
It’s also important to understand that millions of Americans go through the same process each year. Chances are, at least one of those friends or family members you don’t want to know about your financial troubles has gone through a bankruptcy themselves. But there is one person who you should never hide any aspect of your financial affairs from, your bankruptcy attorney. Your bankruptcy lawyer has been there before and it’s important to share everything with your attorney about your financial affairs. Talk with your attorney about your feelings and concerns, and listen to his input, as seasoned professionals who understand the bankruptcy process and how to get you back to a financially manageable life (after all that is the main goal of any bankruptcy) he will know what works and what doesn’t.
And most of all, remember there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Filing bankruptcy can help reduce all that stress and helplessness that comes with uncontrollable debt, putting you on the track to financial freedom.

